Earlier this week, I shared a list of mentorship programs in Orange County designed to uplift and support our youth. In the days that followed, I received messages from individuals asking to have their personal businesses added to the list—many of which were in the athletic arena. These requests gave me pause.
It prompted me to reflect: Was I unclear in communicating that the post was intended to highlight mentorship programs, not paid extracurricular services?
So, I took a step back, reconsidered my wording, and in that moment of reflection, I came to a deeper understanding of how we define mentorship—and why it matters so much, especially for our Black children.
What Is Mentorship, Really?
Webster’s Dictionary defines mentorship as “the influence, guidance, or direction given by a mentor—a trusted counselor or guide.”
Today, a mentor is more than just a tutor or coach. They are someone who invests in the heart, mind, and growth of a child—not because they’re paid to, but because they care.
When I think of my own upbringing, I realize my mentors were not my teachers or sports coaches—though they certainly had influence. My mentors were church members, Sabbath school leaders, and the parents of close friends. They were people who stepped in, shared wisdom, offered encouragement, and believed in me even when I didn’t yet believe in myself.
Now, as a mother, I’m committed to creating those same opportunities for my children. I actively enroll them in mentorship programs where they can build relationships with trusted adults who look like them, who have walked paths they can one day follow, and who represent excellence in fields beyond athletics.
Why This Matters for Our Black Children
Too often, our children are told—directly or indirectly—that their greatest value lies in their athletic ability. But what happens when the cheering stops? When an injury ends a dream? Or when a young person simply decides they no longer want to play?
Many youth feel lost after leaving a sport—whether by choice or not.
There is a quiet but dangerous pressure placed on young athletes, particularly in the Black community, to “make it” through sports. And while athleticism can be a beautiful gift, it must not be the only thing our children see as their purpose.
We must give them more.
We must show them that they are whole, multi-dimensional, brilliant individuals with infinite possibilities in front of them—entrepreneurship, science, technology, art, public service, advocacy, and so much more.
Mentorship Is a Team Effort
Here’s what I’ve learned most through this process: mentorship only works when parents are actively engaged.
Finding a mentor isn’t a “set it and forget it” situation. It requires time, intentionality, and a willingness to show up—again and again.
Many of these programs are run entirely by volunteers. That means they need your help—not just your child’s attendance. As a parent, you may be driving to sessions, sitting in on events, volunteering your own skills, and supporting the program however you can.
And as your child navigates this experience, the balance becomes key—being involved, without taking over.
Final Thoughts
Mentorship is not a trend—it’s a legacy. It is one of the most powerful ways we can shape our children’s futures.
Let us expand their world beyond courts and fields. Let us guide them toward discovery, resilience, and joy in every dimension of who they are meant to become.
Our children deserve to be seen, nurtured, and mentored—not just trained.
And it begins with us.
Always Have, Always Will ~ Kalie
